My name is Ingrida Pojemiatskas.

Most people call me Ingrid.

I am a Certified Professional Coach (C.P.C.) specialising in narcissistic abuse recovery, toxic relationships, self-sabotage, and identity rebuilding for women over 40. I am also a writer. My literary memoir, The Years I Stayed, tells the story of nineteen years inside a narcissistic relationship across three continents.

I was born in Lithuania. I lived in Milan, Papua New Guinea, and Australia before the marriage ended. I rebuilt my life, trained as a coach, and now work between Mallorca and Milan. I coach in English and Italian.

I do not coach from theory. Everything I teach, I learned by living through it first.

How I work

My coaching is direct, structured, and grounded in real life. We do not analyse the past endlessly. We focus on what is keeping you stuck now, what you actually want, and how to move toward it with clarity.

I work with women who are done waiting for permission. Women who stayed too long, gave too much, and lost themselves in the process. My job is to help you see what the relationship obscured and build something that is entirely yours.

This is not therapy. It is a practical process designed to help you think clearly, trust yourself, and take confident action.

Why I do this work

Because I know what it costs to stay. I know what it takes to leave. And I know that the hardest part is not the leaving but figuring out who you are once the noise stops.

The narcissist did not break me. He found what was already broken. That understanding changed everything. It is the foundation of how I coach.

If you are a woman over 40 who has survived a narcissistic relationship and you are ready to stop surviving and start building, I would like to work with you.